Dating for women in their forties
I had to feel strongly that a woman was going to be around before introducing her to my kids.
Fast-forward ten years and now I'm happily in a relationship.
Barclay, a Chicago attorney and the author of The African-American Guide to Divorce & Drama: Breaking Up Without Breaking Down.
Friends may also encourage men to start dating immediately to get over the ex and just move on. "Using women as placeholders or rebounding immediately after a divorce mimics adolescent behavior," says Jeff Gardere, Ph. "Men rebound more often because they act out more sexually.
It's usually what adolescents do when they can't identify what they're feeling." According to some experts, even a few therapy sessions can help the recovery process, which can take between two and five years, depending on the situation and if there are children.
"A man must take time to heal before getting into a new relationship," adds Gardere, who has been divorced for five years.
"Men can heal with traditional and spiritual counseling, therapy and increased involvement in social activities to help them through the process." Talking to a pastor and getting involved in church activities served as therapy for many of the men Lawson-Elahee has studied.
I've found that divorced Black men tend to suffer deep depression longer than Black women.